Just Imagine Being a Parent at This School Where Your Kid Was Stabbed to Death

Nov 17, 2017 12:00:00 AM

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I write from a place of privilege today. I have never once worried about the safety of my three children at school. The victim of the fatal school stabbing was named Matthew. I have a Matthew too. I owe it to every parent who does worry to try and put myself in their shoes and then raise my voice on their behalf. I wish I had done so sooner. Robert Pondiscio and  Max Eden have penned a  piece for the New York Daily News that will likely rankle many folks who call themselves education reformers. But no matter how much certain parts of the piece may get under the collective skin of the reform community, I sincerely hope we find it in ourselves to slow down and ask ourselves: what if my child attended the school where this happened? What if that had been my student? I have spent the morning doing just that. Abel Cedeno being taken into custody From the piece:
Abel Cedeno, a bisexual 18-year-old high school student, sits at Rikers Island charged with manslaughter. Cedeno claims he killed another student in self-defense, and Wednesday appeared in court to plead not guilty. He insists his school did nothing to address years of homophobic bullying. And that on Sept. 27, two teachers in his history class did nothing as classmate Matthew McCree confronted Cedeno—who, claiming to fear that Matthew was armed, snapped and stabbed him with a serrated knife. While the families of the perpetrator and victim dispute some details, they agree that, in the words of Matthew’s brother, “Nobody had the kids under control” at Urban Assembly School for Wildlife Conservation in the Bronx. Five years ago, a nightmare like this would’ve caused a call to action from education reformers for higher disciplinary standards and perhaps more charter schools. Today, the outcry has been conspicuous by its absence.
I am a supporter of  restorative justice but, as with any practice whose goal is to change behavior, it only works when done well. It takes a highly-skilled team and an all-in approach. Far too often, restorative justice is an edict from the top and those being tasked with implementation haven’t even bought in yet let alone received comprehensive training. On the contrary, they are skeptical and they share that with colleagues and even with students. How do I know? I’ve seen the lack of buy-in firsthand in buildings where I’ve worked as well as on the social media feeds of countless educators. Talk about a recipe for disaster and yes, danger. And I’ve also seen restorative justice succeed, build trust, and provide students with exactly what they need to get back on track. But it is very hard work—it takes time, money and patience. If school staff aren’t all rowing in the same direction, it can’t work. I don’t think anyone can or would make the claim that Urban Assembly School for Wildlife Conservation in the Bronx was doing restorative justice well. And that matters. Just a quick look at survey data of parents and students is evidence that they had seen and felt a seismic shift in the safety of the building since de Blasio’s push to reduce suspensions. More from the piece:
Before Mayor de Blasio’s citywide push to reduce suspensions began in 2015, it was a safe school. In 2013-14, according to the city’s official school survey, 86 percent of teachers said order was maintained, and 80 percent of students felt safe in the hallways. Last year, a mere 19 percent of teachers thought the school was in order, and only 55 percent of kids felt safe. How did that happen—and so suddenly? There may have been multiple causes, but one factor seems clear. Under policy orders to limit disciplinary interventions and implement a “restorative” approach, the school got so bad that some parents reportedly began patrolling the hallways themselves.
I certainly support and applaud reductions in suspensions. A superintendent near where I live  admitted in 2016 that they had been wrongly using suspensions as a tool at the elementary level. After making a commitment to changing their practice, they reduced elementary suspensions by 97 percent. That’s a good thing.
Superintendent DiCenso readily acknowledges that keeping more students in the building does put a strain on the system if buildings are not adequately staffed to manage the defiance and unruly behavior that was previously being sent out of the building in the way of suspension. And adequate isn’t just about numbers of adults; my own experience confirms the need to ensure the right adults are in place, those who are skilled and/or have been trained to defuse and deescalate kids when they need it. They are also people who cultivate relationships with students that are based on mutual trust and respect.
But in the case of de Blasio’s initiative and the subsequent fatal stabbing of a young man during history class, there can be no applauding over suspension data. And there certainly shouldn’t be silence. The parents of the students in that building—especially the one who lost his life and the one who now sits in jail—deserve our voice and our collective willingness to acknowledge and be honest about what went wrong and what it will take to fix it. Some may not like the messengers of this New York Daily News piece about what happened to Abel Cedeno and Matthew McCree and why. I certainly hope that, despite that, they will consider the message. I know that I’m grateful to have read it.
An original version of this post appeared on Good School Hunting.

Erika Sanzi

Erika Sanzi is a mother of three sons and taught in public schools in Massachusetts, California and Rhode Island. She has served on her local school board in Cumberland, Rhode Island, advocated for fair school funding at the state level, and worked on campaigns of candidates she considers to be champions for kids and true supporters of great schools. She is currently a Fordham senior visiting fellow.

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